Self Care is Baby Care

Written By Linda Gage

The transition to motherhood is a big one and can feel overwhelming at times. Your hormones, exhaustion, and physical recovery from birth can make the first few weeks feel like a crazy rollercoaster. You may experience some of the signs of depression or anxiety during this time. This doesn’t mean it is hard the whole time, but there will gradually be aspects that feel more natural, and others that take time to figure out. Breastfeeding can help settle your hormones and provide a protective aspect for your mental health. Breastfeeding can also be hard. During this time, it is important to look after yourself and allow others to look after you as you, in turn, look after your baby. 

Here are some things that can make this adjustment to motherhood even harder:

  • Comparing yourself to other mamas or how you think they are coping can be a rabbit hole that leads to self-doubt, increased worry, and anxiety. Remember, the blissful newborn photos you see on social media usually represent a moment in time that is not the norm for the entire day! 

  • As your baby grows developmentally, you will encounter new behaviors and needs. This is good and normal, but it does mean that the advice or plan you were given may no longer be the best option for you or your baby. Scheduling a follow-up consultation can be a great way to reevaluate your current situation and your baby's needs.

  • Not getting help or support when you start to struggle definitely makes it more stressful. (Remember, Google is not your best option!) Building a community around you is also vital. This mothering thing is not supposed to be done in isolation. 

The good news is that self care doesn’t need to be something grand or time-consuming. Here are four practical ways to take care of yourself in just a few minutes every day as a new mom:

The Four S’s of Self Care for New Moms: 

Sunshine: Starting your day with time in the sun does a whole lot of good for you and your baby. Stock up on natural vitamin D3 and reset your circadian rhythm. You can catch the morning light on your porch, through an open window, or in your backyard. 

Stretch: Stretch, swim, stroll, sway, or salsa! Do whatever movement you enjoy the most. A little movement each day will help with the aches, pains, and gentle healing of your body. As time goes on, you can gradually work toward increasing your fitness. Here are some excellent resources and great local accounts to follow, or you can connect with them for extra in-person support:  

Snuggles: The power of a hug and gentle touch is soul-care for us all. Hug your baby, your friends, your family, and your dog or cat. Enjoy a massage. Hugs and soothing touch produce the hormone oxytocin, which enhances bonding, relaxation, and well-being. Skin-to-skin time with your baby and breastfeeding are great ways to increase oxytocin. It can also help support your milk supply.

Snacks: Fueling your body with fresh and healthy snacks can strengthen your immune system and milk supply. It also helps with postpartum healing and provides energy throughout the day. Have some healthy snacks on hand or ask a friend for a good snack pack. Additional supplements can sometimes be necessary as well. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

A Final Thought

For some mamas, the feelings and concerns don’t improve by themselves or come back. If you are struggling, please reach out for help. It is not a sign of weakness or failure. Choosing to seek support, counseling, and possible treatment will help you be the best mom for your baby.

For more practical ideas and encouragement, follow me on Instagram  @InJoyLC

Linda Gage
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